12 Dec Fully Alive? Have You Met Your Gremlin? (part 3 of 4)
The impact is different for everyone – but it has some impact on you. For example: low self esteem, feeling invaluable, unworthy, needy of praise, etc. Most people keep this to themselves, but mentally and emotionally wrestle with it and it squeaks out in their actions, responses to people – how they take things personally, are unable to apologize, get defensive, justify actions that hurt others, are unable to love or be vulnerable with others, etc. The Gremlin, out of fear, keeps us totally self-focused and protected from others. It sounds pretty selfish, but the Gremlin will convince you it is not selfish, rather necessary to protect yourself from getting hurt. The Gremlin can produce many examples of why you need to listen to it and protect yourself.
The problem is when we yield to this we are not living our highest calling, our full potential, we are not living wholeheartedly and not being the light in the world we were called to be. The Gremlin will argue “who cares, it is a mean tough world out there, stay inside where it is safe, you have been hurt before, you don’t want to go through that again!” But we know the truth is, greatness has risk and to enjoy great love, great meaning, significance and purpose with great success, we have to step out of our comfort zone. Failure is a guarantee. That is how we learn and grow. What child learned to walk without falling down? The Gremlin wants you to fear failure and makes it a definer of your value, however that is not true. Every human is a significant and valuable being.
Keep Charging & Shine!
Christy Geiger, Executive/Leadership Coach, www.synergystrategies.com