Negative emotions can be challenging to deal with, especially when the events that cause them seem to pile on top of each other. Have you ever been having a great day, but you get a call or email that shifts your mood or energy?
Have you ever been having a great day and then a phone call, email, or something happens that shifts you into negative emotions, mood, and energy? Often people will say, “Just shake it off.” We feel ashamed and guilty to be “fixating” on something and struggling to “let it go” as if we should be able to snap out of it and move on, unaffected by our emotions.
We often think about resilience as the ability to bounce back from tough situations and challenges. More broadly and accurately, resilience IS the ability to bounce back and recover faster because we can stay fully charged internally longer, so we handle stress and challenges more easily.
If you want to have a strengths-based team, you must be willing to have tough conversations and work through differences. Generally, people do not like conflict and avoid it. This is part of the breakdown of teams and culture.
Sometimes we don’t realize what “the work” of a situation or task is. We often like to see the results and want it without doing “THE WORK”. We like to see what feels easy, the green grass, without seeing the pain point or challenge (ie water, seeding, weeding, etc.) to get the green grass. As humans we can feel entitled at times, as if we have already done our time, paid the price, done the work for a result we feel we deserve.
If you avoid doing the important leadership work of critical presence, tough conversations, and key decision-making, you are what I call, a squishy leader.
Counseling takes bad things and makes them smaller (like putting out a fire).
Coaching takes good things and makes them bigger (like adding brightness to a light).
With true sincerity of heart and extreme gratitude, I have been blessed to spend nearly 25 years married to an amazing wife, true friend, and yes…a coach! 🙂
I feel very blessed and honored to coach my clients! It is a gift to hold space for their learning, self-reflections and self-challenging.
I developed a model to help capture the numerous components happening and available in my coaching process. This is what I call the Synergy Strategies Coaching Model. It does not mean these happen in each coaching call, rather these are all on the table to be accessed and part of a coaching relationship.
